Premature ejaculation (PE) comes too quickly, and it's one of the most common sexual problems. Several male genders claim to encounter this kind of problem quite often. It is seen to be common in young men, which is not surprising, but there is a clear tendency to improve with age. Men generally get better control as they get older. However, a survey conducted in 2004 showed that many middle-aged men still have this problem. Fortunately, good treatments are available.
Definition It is almost impossible to get an accurate definition of premature ejaculation. In a very simple way, it can relate to a problem related to the duration of ejaculation which is too early during sexual intercourse. At the European Society for Sexual Medicine Congress in 2006, a research paper stated that: "The average lasting time of men with premature ejaculation was 1.8 minutes, while so-called normal men last about 7.3 minutes ". However, there are men who claim to have premature ejaculation which could last up to 25 minutes. This clearly shows that each person has their own idea of what is normal and what is early. At the same congress, a professor reported that 2.5% of men could not stay 90 seconds inside the vagina. These men definitely have premature ejaculation. In the most frequent cases, many couples consider intercourse that lasts less than 20 minutes to be less satisfying, and that an ejaculation in less than 10 minutes or more is clearly premature. For a concrete definition, if you or your partner feels like orgasm is happening too soon, there is probably some degree of premature ejaculation.
The consequences of premature ejaculation
In most cases, premature ejaculation is a thorny problem because it makes people unhappy and frustrated. In complicated cases, it can pose a threat or even ruin a marriage, simply because the sexual life of two partners is compromised. Sometimes the problem is so severe that the man cannot have sex. He has an ejaculation even before he penetrates his partner, and this is a situation that can destroy a man's self-confidence. It can also be extremely frustrating and annoying for her partner, especially if the latter wants to get pregnant.
What are the causes ?
For many years, sex experts tend to say that premature ejaculation is caused by early conditioning. Some surveys have shown that many men with premature ejaculation did not rush to have their first sexual experiences, while others say they did. Interestingly, from an evolutionary perspective, it's likely that men who climaxed early were more likely to have children. Some men have been highly motivated from the start of their sex lives, being both enticed and excited about it, just like their fathers were before them, and the problem has become hereditary. Therefore, the tendency to reach orgasm quickly can possibly be inherited. There is no question that anxiety or nerves play a part in many cases of premature ejaculation. If you're nervous, you're likely to come too soon. This is why many men have discovered for themselves that a small amount of alcohol relaxes their nerves and makes them less likely to come prematurely. But this is not recommended as a treatment. What is the solution?
This is a treatment for mild cases. If you have a mild premature ejaculation, for example you can last five minutes, but you want to last 10 minutes, there is probably no point in going to see a doctor, because you should be able to improve the situation by simple distraction techniques. Think of one thing that has been unpleasant for you when you feel like you're about to ejaculate: something that really has nothing to do with sex. You can also pinch yourself, it works every time. The use of a local anesthetic gel can also be effective. Some men use a topical anesthetic gel that is applied to the tip of the penis shortly before intercourse. The negative aspect of using this gel is that the local anesthetic can cause your partner's penis to feel 'dull'. It can also cause a painful reaction of the skin at the level of the organ of one of the partners, intense itching, redness and pain. It is better to use the “long love” condom which contains a local anesthetic such as benzocaine or lidocaine. These products are now sold in many countries under a variety of brand names. Some men say they last longer with these condoms, but the risk of a sensitivity reaction to the local anesthetic is always present.